Fish Fillet

My first love. #xplainserrything #thankspandora

Wed, 22 May 2013 13:35:41 -0400

My first love. #xplainserrything #thankspandora

Tappy tappy.

Tue, 21 May 2013 10:55:10 -0400

Tappy tappy.

"The kind of cool that dominoes immeasurably: in the same way that we’ll never know exactly how..."

Thu, 16 May 2013 10:16:39 -0400

“The kind of cool that dominoes immeasurably: in the same way that we’ll never know exactly how many babies are on this earth because of Sade, we will never know how many girls picked up bass guitars and started bands because of Kim Deal’s grinning, invitingly normal, yes-even-you-can-do-this-too charm.”

- The Breeders forever.

This. tumblr. I just can’t. thank you @legbacarrefour

Wed, 15 May 2013 23:39:09 -0400

This. tumblr. I just can’t. thank you @legbacarrefour

I suppose it WAS too good to be...

Thu, 09 May 2013 11:29:32 -0400

I suppose it WAS too good to be true…#willowwouldwearithough

You can buy the shirt though.

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Wed, 08 May 2013 22:04:17 -0400

It’s the time at the end of a long work day where all...

Wed, 08 May 2013 18:25:35 -0400

It’s the time at the end of a long work day where all emails get an attached gif. #profesh

thewolfsinyourbed: When i find someone who likes Game Of Thrones #realtalk

Wed, 08 May 2013 11:38:53 -0400

thewolfsinyourbed:

When i find someone who likes Game Of Thrones

#realtalk

"I just love bossy women. I could be around them all day. To me, bossy is not a pejorative term at..."

Mon, 06 May 2013 13:58:34 -0400

“I just love bossy women. I could be around them all day. To me, bossy is not a pejorative term at all. It means somebody’s passionate and engaged and ambitious and doesn’t mind leading.”

- Amy Poehler

Yes, to all of this. Useful tool for many of our favorite online...

Mon, 29 Apr 2013 00:18:05 -0400

Yes, to all of this. Useful tool for many of our favorite online internet kerfuffles. annfriedman:

In my ongoing quest for the perfect framework for understanding haters, I created The Disapproval Matrix**. (With a deep bow to its inspiration.) This is one way to separate haterade from productive feedback. Here’s how the quadrants break down:

Critics: These are smart people who know something about your field. They are taking a hard look at your work and are not loving it. You’ll probably want to listen to what they have to say, and make some adjustments to your work based on their thoughtful comments.

Lovers: These people are invested in you and are also giving you negative but rational feedback because they want you to improve. Listen to them, too.

Frenemies: Ooooh, this quadrant is tricky. These people really know how to hurt you, because they know you personally or know your work pretty well. But at the end of the day, their criticism is not actually about your work—it’s about you personally. And they aren’t actually interested in a productive conversation that will result in you becoming better at what you do. They just wanna undermine you. Dishonorable mention goes to The Hater Within, aka the irrational voice inside you that says you suck, which usually falls into this quadrant. Tell all of these fools to sit down and shut up.

Haters: This is your garden-variety, often anonymous troll who wants to tear down everything about you for no rational reason. Folks in this quadrant are easy to write off because they’re counterproductive and you don’t even know them. Ignore! Engaging won’t make you any better at what you do. And then rest easy, because having haters is proof your work is finding a wide audience and is sparking conversation. Own it.

The general rule of thumb? When you receive negative feedback that falls into one of the top two quadrants—from experts or people who care about you who are engaging with and rationally critiquing your work—you should probably take their comments to heart. When you receive negative feedback that falls into the bottom two quadrants, you should just let it roll off your back and just keep doin’ you. If you need to amp yourself up about it, may I suggest this #BYEHATER playlist on Spotify? You’re welcome.

** I presented The Disapproval Matrix to the fine folks at MoxieCon in Chicago yesterday, and they seemed to find it useful, so I figured I’d share with the class. It was originally inspired by a question my friend Channing Kennedy submitted to my #Realtalk column at the Columbia Journalism Review.

Incredible. via @mayadusenbery CC @annfriedman and @aminatou

Sun, 28 Apr 2013 16:26:56 -0400

Incredible. via @mayadusenbery CC @annfriedman and @aminatou

Oh. Em. Ef. Gee. #madmen #petecampbell

Fri, 26 Apr 2013 09:52:21 -0400

Oh. Em. Ef. Gee. #madmen #petecampbell

"It would be rude to say Gordon doesn’t look her age, which is 59. That’s a line reserved for those..."

Tue, 23 Apr 2013 12:10:53 -0400

“It would be rude to say Gordon doesn’t look her age, which is 59. That’s a line reserved for those who are desperately trying to appear young. There is nothing desperate about Kim Gordon. When the subject of dating comes up, I’m not surprised to hear that younger men are vying for her attention, though the couple is not yet divorced.”

- Kim Gordon forever.

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Mon, 22 Apr 2013 23:53:37 -0400

gawkinggeek: A dragon is not a slave.

Mon, 22 Apr 2013 00:36:40 -0400

gawkinggeek:

A dragon is not a slave.

Damn.

Wed, 17 Apr 2013 00:32:07 -0400

Damn.

Oh, that Mindy.

Fri, 12 Apr 2013 00:49:24 -0400

Oh, that Mindy.

awesomepeoplehangingouttogether: Nina Simone and James Baldwin

Wed, 10 Apr 2013 23:21:14 -0400

awesomepeoplehangingouttogether:

Nina Simone and James Baldwin

how it is.

Wed, 10 Apr 2013 23:18:08 -0400

how it is.

"It was hard to say which moment the mourners were there to mark: the passing of Firestone or that of..."

Wed, 10 Apr 2013 22:56:58 -0400

“It was hard to say which moment the mourners were there to mark: the passing of Firestone or that of a whole generation of feminists who had been unable to thrive in the world they had done so much to create.”

- http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2013/04/15/130415fa_fact_faludi#ixzz2PzgDxSHt